My mil thinks she can only handle her son and whole house. She only knows his likes and dislikes. And she does all the work in home. She washes his son clothes, does kitchen work, everything. My husband says m not doing anything behaving as a guest. I too feel like that. But the fact is she is not giving chance for me. Even if I want to take anything, she only knows where it is. But my husband says my mom is getting old, so u take care all of us. How do I handle this sitn. How 'll i make him understand that she is not giving chance? My husband keeps on saying that u didn't even making a cup of tea for me. Sometimes I feel happy that I don want to do any work. But sometimes I feel m staying in this house as guest. Really I don't feel like my home.

Hi, I think, you talk to your husband and tell him in detail about the whole situation. Some women think that by letting go of the control, they will lose their power. Perhaps, she thinks the same way. I think, if your husband understands, ell and good, but if he doesn't then you do one thing. Enrol yourself in some class or activity, and I am pretty sure when your MIL will see you going out, she will have 100 errands that she would want you to do. Because then she would know you have to go somewhere and be on time, so she will make sure, she has work ready for you and then she would sulk also if you won't do anything unlike now. Else, I think making your husband understand the whole situation is the only best option if you have already spoken to your mother and she has given an excuse that she will manage. You can make your husband speak to your mother and let him tell her what your point is.