Hi po. I understand po na because of your loss you wanted to have another baby. I experienced the same when I lost my first born. I know it was just irrational thoughts brought by the feeling of grief and loss. Gusto ko sundan agad, but I know there are risk if ganun. Number 1, hindi pa naghe-heal yung body mo, number 2, according to my ob there is 30% chance of having another preterm delivery because you had already one. Ideally po, 18 months to 2 years pa dapat sundan just to allow your body to heal kasi po nanganak po kayo.
In my case, I gave birth last year, 26 weeker lang yung baby ko at 1 month lang sya nabuhay. It is really painful, masakit ang healing process kasi hindi mo magawang mag thank you sa mga tao na nag co-congratulate sayo after manganak kasi premature yung baby, and then boom nawala lang din. Niluwal pero hindi naiuwi. Kaya I understang kong why you have the urge to get pregnant again kasi I've been there in the feeling. As much as I wanted to bear again, I know na there are risk. Kaya, nagheal muna ako, and making myself rational. Last, May of this year, I consulted my OB about getting pregnant if pwed na ba, she gave me go signal. However, I still have hesitations kasi nga natatakot ako maulit, even if may go signal, I waited for more than 3 months to really finalized my mind and putting my heart into it. I made sure I wanted to have a baby because I am ready not because I wanted to replace my loss child but because I am ready to give myself and my husband another chance to become parents. So technically hindi inabot ng 1 year after ako nanganak, 10 months lang, I got pregnant right away. But before po ako nagbuntis, I took folic acid for more than 4 months as part of my preparation. I exercise to prepare my body. If you asked me if I am still grieving, yes I still do but it was quite different journey ngayon, at peace ang puso ko at alam ko itong 2nd baby ko is not a replacement sa nawala.
Kaya mommy, pray ka muna before deciding things, do not rush. Talk with your husband, consult and OB to help taking care of you. I have a lots of precautions this 2nd pregnancy, I chose to stop working muna, then rest. Taking my prescriptions and prenatal vitamins. Following my OB's order to have a fullterm baby on May 2023.
Praying for your healing and decision making.
Anonymous