I hope your partner knows when to stop helping. Ang pagbukod ay kasama ang finances at emotions, hindi lang ang physical na bahay.
Your maternity benefit is for you kasi you will not be working while on mat leave. If you let them borrow your money, bahala ka, but if nashort ka sa budget, that's on you po talaga. This is not being madamot, but this is being responsible. This is also to teach his family about financial literacy. Umuutang to pay for another utang is a red flag. Kung kakarguhin niyo sila palagi, they won't learn. And kayo din, forever kayo magbibigay. Hindi ito pagdadamot, but your priority is now your spouse and your child/ren, hindi ang nanay, tatay, o mga kapatid.
Set boundaries. Let your partner know your thoughts. Kung babawasan kamo yung mat ben mo at hindi mabayaran agad ng pamilya niya, siya ang bayad on their behalf. Be firm.