Contempt and Resentment

Hi sis! Sa tagal namin ng husband ko I think 15 years na yata kami hahaha! Hindi ko sure pero parang ganon nga.. ang isang natutunan ko is tanggapin sya at makuntento kung ano sya. Pero ndi pa din nawawala un dapat ganito sya dapat ganyan. Pero kaya nga natin sya minahal e ibigsabihin nakita natin sa kanya un ndi natin nakita sa iba. Siguro dala lang din yan ng postpartum mo before kasi kapapanganak mo lang then sa pagkaka intindi ko parang tatlo lang kau sa bahay kaw si husband and ur baby. Nagkaron din aq ng postpartum after I gave birth un tipong wala na lang aq gagawin kundi msg breastfeed sa baby ko tapos matutulog sya tapos gigising and mag milk uli tapos ndi aq makalabas dahil baby pa nga sya tapos bf mom pako non. Pero un husband ko minsan nilalabas nya aq para manood ng sine kahit saglit lang. Parang ang lungkot lang talaga sa bahay noh.. pero isipin mo na lang may task pa din si hubby mo like magluto ng food ndi lahat ng lalaki ginagawa yan lagi. Iba kasi mind set talaga ng mga lalaki kesa sa babae, may pagka self fish talaga sila minsan kaya kausapin mo na lang sya sis. And intindihin din natin sila na pagod din sila from work. I know pagod ka din sa gawaing bahay at kay baby pero communication is the best way para sa isang relationship.

Married or not married.... Have you talk to your husband about your issues/ problems and concerns? If no, i think you need to compromise on the issues. In a relationship you must have an open communication specially your relationship is at stake and there is your little one being affected... If yes and you do all the talking and communucating (i hope is not in a nagging way) and still same old issues maybe it is about time to have space between your relationships. That somehow both of you will realize what should both of you to do to arrange your relationship..

Hindi pa ako nanganganak but I feel the same way you’ve shared. He’s there and could support you but there are little things that would make us happy but like a burden for them. I’m also thinking that’ll be better off alone than be with someone that would turn my life not the way I wanted it. Hugs