Hay, this is so heavy and I can really feel the love and worry in what you wrote. A few of us mums have been there, where our partner carries so much quietly kaya they mask everything, and it's exhausting for both of you even if he thinks he's protecting the family. The thing is, he might genuinely believe that keeping it all in is what you need from him, but you can't pour from an empty cup, di ba? Maybe try talking to him when it's calm, not during a stressful moment, and let him know na it's okay to be human, to be tired, to hurt, that actually, sharing that with you makes him a better partner and father, not a weaker one. If the weight feels too much for him or for your relationship, no shame in seeing a couples counselor together; maraming resources din ngayon dito sa Pinas. You sound like a really loving wife who sees him fully, kaya siguro he needs to know na.