First foremost, being in the fourth trimester (after birth) has never been easy for all mum and esp if you have no helping hand, lack of sleep, stress, depress which can lead to PP.
It will always take trial and error when we tackle and care for newborn. It can be very difficult to read their pattern of sleeping, eating, etc. But we can definitely take the first step to care for ourselves first, slowly trust your mother instinct to tackle your baby's pattern. It will take awhile but you have to do it slowly. You dont push yourself much and if you need helping hand, always ask for it. It can be from your spouse too. They are to know themselves and be sensitive that we need time to heal and we dont just carry as well as giving birth only. We need to care for baby together.
To bring baby out you can start by strolling the park, walk around your neighbourhood. You can start overcome your anxiety in order to also know what your baby likes or dislike eg: noises of car make them sleep better, being quiet make them sleep, windy environment outside help them to soothe well, etc. If you never try, you will never know. If you feel you are not ready, have someone with you and try to go out together to overcome it. But makesure it is someone that knoe what to do when your baby can't calm down.
I know that having anxiety aint easy as I have siblings with anxiety. They are advice to never be alone, always learn to express emotions, learn basic breathing technic to calm themselves.
I would also suggest to look up on platform with tackling anxiety, platform for new parents to handle newborn at this stage and hopefully you will start to take the first step to overcome the anxiety that's within you.
All the best mummy ❤
Anonymous