PP feelings

First foremost, being in the fourth trimester (after birth) has never been easy for all mum and esp if you have no helping hand, lack of sleep, stress, depress which can lead to PP. It will always take trial and error when we tackle and care for newborn. It can be very difficult to read their pattern of sleeping, eating, etc. But we can definitely take the first step to care for ourselves first, slowly trust your mother instinct to tackle your baby's pattern. It will take awhile but you have to do it slowly. You dont push yourself much and if you need helping hand, always ask for it. It can be from your spouse too. They are to know themselves and be sensitive that we need time to heal and we dont just carry as well as giving birth only. We need to care for baby together. To bring baby out you can start by strolling the park, walk around your neighbourhood. You can start overcome your anxiety in order to also know what your baby likes or dislike eg: noises of car make them sleep better, being quiet make them sleep, windy environment outside help them to soothe well, etc. If you never try, you will never know. If you feel you are not ready, have someone with you and try to go out together to overcome it. But makesure it is someone that knoe what to do when your baby can't calm down. I know that having anxiety aint easy as I have siblings with anxiety. They are advice to never be alone, always learn to express emotions, learn basic breathing technic to calm themselves. I would also suggest to look up on platform with tackling anxiety, platform for new parents to handle newborn at this stage and hopefully you will start to take the first step to overcome the anxiety that's within you. All the best mummy ❤

Hi mama, it’s normal to feel this way. I was like you during nb days as well. I cried taking care of her and gets annoyed easily because I’m very lack of sleep and I’m not eating well. My advise is to take it slowly, it will be over before you even realize. At this stage you may feel like it’s hard but once bb gets older, you will realize nb days are the easiest. The hard part during nb days is having to get used to no sleep and also learning how to read baby. Now my baby tries to tear down my room or attempt to fly off the bed the moment she’s awake. 🥲 It is okay for baby to cry, sometimes it’s just that they need comfort. Can consider baby wearing (daytime)/yaolan (day or night) or even stroller (daytime) to see if baby can sleep better. Use app trackers to mark down feed/diapers change timings so at the very least you will at least have a clearer view on roughly when to feed or change baby. For my case, during her nb days, she feeds every 3 hourly so I will standby the milk (2.45hours) before she cries. If all these is too much for you now, give yourself a break. Get someone to help you out for a day, go out and chill. Meet up with friends, do some shopping, pamper yourself. Jiayou mama! 💪🏻