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Hi Dr Aika, my husband has a history of cheating but not during our marriage. more like when we were bf-gf. Nagbago naman sya dati. We dealt with it properly. and I dont doubt him now because he doesn't give me any reason magselos or magdoubt. his phone is open lang all the time I use his phone kasi phone nya gamit ng anak ko pang watch ng shows. but twing nagaaway kmi for other topics, I cant help but isumbat saknya yung nga panloloko nya sakin noon. i know its bad. pero I know na im coming from unforgiveness and yung parang it feels unfair na niloko mo ko dati while i was loyal saknya all throughout. Ewan ko ba. i know ako na ang may issue now. I just dont know how to heal from it. help please
Same situation sis. Pero sakin, he cheated on me and got the girl (which is ex nya) pregnant nung magbf/gf palang kami. I forgave him kasi mahal ko, and chose to stay. Now married na kami, and we have our 1st baby turning 4months. Tapos bigla nag ask ng sustento yung ex nya thru his sister, since nakablock na yun sa kanya. I also feel mad about it, feeling sorry for my baby for putting her in this situation. I don't know pano ko sasabihin at ieexplain sa kanya in the future bakit may kapatid siya sa labas. I know it will surely break her heart, and ngayon palang nasasaktan ako kasi ako yung rason bakit masasaktan ko anak ko in the future. Di din alam ng family sa side ko. Kaya wala ako mapagsabihan. Hays.
bf ko pa sya noon nung nag start sya mag cheat sa akin. siguro 2x yun. pero pinaka malala yung ika 3rd time kasi muntik na talaga kami maghiwalay. pero siguro ayoko talaga mabalewala ang 9yrs namin, kaya pinatawad ko sya. then na buntis pa ako agad the 1st time namin sinubukan na hindi mag withdraw. so sabay ko ginawa ang pag move forward at pagbubuntis ko. mahirap pero pilit kong kinaya kasi again, choice ko yun, at choice namin din para sa baby namin. nangako si partner na di na talaga sya uulit, at up to now never na namin pinag usapan, 2yrs from that painful moment and 2yrs old na din now ang anak namin. minsan umaatake anxiety ko at iba pa, pero sinisigurado nya na wala na ako dapat ipag alala pa.
Hi, doc Aika. Last month lang po nahuli ko partner ko may ka chat my ni liligawan katrabaho nya na ma's bata pa sa akin, ang sakit pala buti nlng naiwan yung phone nya nung time na kita ko lahat ng messages nya sa girl. Ang sakit parang dinudurog puso ko, at kaka panaganak ko lang that time at kahit buntis ako may nililigawan na pala cya ng ibang girl. Kahit sabihin nya na chat2 lang sobrang sakit parin kahit ngayon dko malimutan... nag sama ulit kmi, pinili ko parin magkaroon ng ama ang mga anak ko at magbabago na daw cya for our kids pero ganun pa mn wala na akong tiwala sa kanya at sa tuwing nag away kami hindi ko mapigilan na isumbat ang pagloloko nya sa akin. 😭😭😭pls advice 🙏
1 yr of relationship biniyaan kami ng angel. Were both happy until nalaman ko yung lahat ng panloloko niya kung pano niya ako pinagsabay sabay sa dalawang babae while im still pregnant. hindi ko lang maintindihan bakit niya nagawang lokohin ako. Tinatanong ko siya kung bakit. hindi niya sinasagot mga tanong ko. Na trauma ako, nagkaron ako ng trust issue, Over thinker and anxiety ng dahil sa mga nalaman ko and nalaman ko pa na sila parin nung babae niya. Nagkakaron nako ng mental breakdown kase he never feel remorse specially sa anak namin. Nagpipray nalang ako kay lord na sana dumating ang araw na magbago ang asawa ko.
It depends po. 1year and half na since niloko ako ng asawako nahuli ko sya sa hotel may kasama kaso bayarang babae naman kasama nya. Siguro nadala din ng kalasingan at mga kabarkada. after that alam ko namang pinagsisihan nya kase mga barkada nya na nagsasabi na gusto na daw lagi tapusin ang buhay nya buhat nung nangyari yun at ramdam ko namang bumabawi sya. hanggang inaya nya ako pakasalan. and now we have a second baby and its a girl my first born is boy. Time heals. Hindi agad agad makakalimutan. Trauma inabot ko noon. Napatawad ko na sya pero ung nangyare nakatatak na yun sa isip ko. hehehe SKL
Dr Aika, I found out my husband cheated on me and may pamilya pala sya sa labas. anyway we are separated na nadin. my toddler daughter lives with me and he visits thrice a week. yung anak ko po nasa stage na na mahilig magtanong. im nervous na itanong nya one day bakit kami naghiwalay ng daddy nya?which I know will happen. SO my question is. When is the right time to tell her the truth? and how do I explain it to her in the best way? ayoko sya mawalan ng daddy and I want her to keep that relationship with her dad. my ex husband is a good father naman din
Hi! Thank you for your honesty and sharing your experience! First of all, I respect you for the decision you made to leave your husband and raise your child on your own. Hindi madali yun. The best time to tell your child is now. Kids understand more than we think they can. It’s better to explain to them early than them trying to find out on their own from other people who may change the story. Your focus now is your relationship with your child more than anything else. And if you start being honest to them at a young age, they will also learn how to be honest with you as they grow older. A child will not hate his/her father despite the history if we do not teach them to. Minsan kasi parents ang nagtatanim ng galit sa damdamin ng mga anak nila without realizing it. Parang pinapasa natin sa anak natin and mali yun. So best to talk to your child now and explain, they do have the capacity to understand. It will make more sense as they grow older but at least naging honest ka na abou
hello. i was the one who cheated. i did it many years ago, multiple times, and there was this time na I swore I would never. lalo na ngayon na we have a family. my marriage is good now pero my partner would sometimes bring it up. it's kind of nakaka discourage ksi through the years i did nothing but prove my love to her and prove na she can trust me again. pero di nya talaga makalimutan . and i dont want to play victim here i dont deserve it pero sguro valid naman na nahuhurt ako sa gnun? how do I tell her that without triggering anything about the cheating dati.
hi.. as a previous victim of cheating, I know how hurtful it is sa side ng misis mo.. Hindi ka pa nya completely mapatawad at hindi ka din nya mapagkatiwalaan ng buo kasi masakit yung ginawa mo e. I myself admit that sometimes, pag sobra yung emotions ko, nasasabi ko parin ung cheating issues ng mister ko pag nagkakaron kami ng away. Yes, valid kang masaktan esp. if nagbago ka naman na talaga, but you really can't blame her e. So the best thing na gawin mo is to tell her how you feel. Sabihin mo sakanya na nasasaktan ka everytime binabalik nya ung issues. Then make her see the efforts you've been doing to assure her na sya lang and that you'll never do it again. Sometimes, kaya ganyan yung victim, kasi kulang sa assurance. Akala mo enuf na ung effort mo to be trustworthy pero sa end nya, hindi pala. May worries pa den pala. So put more effort in to your relationship and siguraduhin mong naaassure mo sya palagi na hindi na mauulit yung nangyari noon.
Is Porn considered cheating? Caught him cheating on me. Nanonood ng sexy vids sa tiktok tas this is what makes it feel like cheating----yung iba nasa circle of friends pa namin. Natapakan pagkababae ko 😭💔 I feel so ugly and insecure. What to do? Natatakot ako iconfront dahil babaligtarin lang nya ko like, hindi naman niya kinausap or like bat wala akong tiwala? naapektuhan na ksi yung everyday interaction nmin with me carrying this. nagiging masungit ako at nawawala respeto ko sknya.
Kumusta sis did you confront him already?
😭😭😭Ilang beses na ako niloloko ng mister ko. Seaman sha pero pag nauwi sha sa pinas malambing sha sa amin ng mga anak nya. Pero pagbalik nya sa barko iba nanaman ang babae nya. Recently nakabuntis ang mister ko ng dati nyang kabit pero kame ng mga bata ang pinili nya. Paulit ulit na panloloko na. Tinanggap ko sha para buo ang pamilya namen. Magbabago pa kaya ang mister ko? 😭😭😭😭Uulit pa kaya sha mambabae sa barko? Need opinion po doc 💔
Dr. Aika Buenavista