Hubby’s duty

I’ve been crying almost every week ever since the arrival of my baby because I feel my hubby is not understanding. He kept saying (once a week at least) that I do nothing whole day other than feeding the baby while he has to do all the household chores and he is tired. I felt so hurt when he made that kind of comment. He is now wfh while I’m on my maternity leave. I took care of the feeding (breastfeeding) and coaxing my baby (hard to put her to sleep/nap) as well as night duty and my hubby will do household chores (laundry and vacuum floor) and carry baby when I need to bath. I asked him to help bathe baby but He thinks that I should bathe baby since he is working and I’m on maternity leave. Is it too much to ask hubby to bathe baby since he is already not involved in feeding, diaper change, night duty, coax baby when cry? I feel so helpless now.

Vô danh

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It is normal to feel emotional and blue after giving birth. I did feel very upset and struggled to fight that depression feeling when hubby turns out not as helpful as I expected him to be. Yes he did the household chores but he did not help with baby at all except when I need to take a shower or use the toilet. But on hindsight, I should have understood earlier that the birth of a baby must have been emotionally and physically exhausting for him and he might have been feeling overwhelmed as well. Additionally, with the presence of the newborn, hubby & I might have disconnected with each other as the focus is now all about the baby. I guess it might have better if there has been better communication. Hugs to you, fellow mummy! May you feel better soon. Please try to let your hubby know that you’re struggling. Maybe you can ask him if he’s feeling okay too. 💛

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