Honestly, ang hirap ng family dynamics talaga, a few of us moms went through similar situations and it really stings when they ghost like that, especially on your baby's milestone. But I think if they're still being petty about the civil wedding invite timing, they might not come anyway, so maybe save yourself the stress and just invite your closest circle na talagang susuportahan kayo? If you're open to reconciling with them someday, you can always celebrate with them separately, but your baby's first birthday should be about people who actually show up and celebrate with you, hindi yung mag-eexpect na ikaw pa ang mag-effort pa ulit.