My boy is 1 yo when I found out I'm preg again. Hes at the age of learning to walk. So it was super taxing for me even just taking care of him at night at weekends either alone or with hub. Now I'm in week 11, I surrendered and got a helper. She is helping me to chase aft my super active boy while I sit on sofa talking and playing with my boy... and she helps on housework
Please show your hb some recent news about mums who were under too much mental stress postnatal that they died. And how can he be supportive if he doesn’t listen to you. He is not the one at home all day so he cannot comment how mentally draining it can be. You have to give him an ultimatum. Let him know how serious you are.
Feel so sad for u. I'm taking of my newborn now during maternity and already can't cope unless got my hubby around. Ask ur hubby to put himself in your shoes by staying home and taking care of the kids for 1 day and do the household chores as well. See if he still think not tiring.
I feel you even thou mine just 1 and shes 17 months and active while I'm 5 mths pregs. I'm. Overwhelm with work and house duty. Hubs working. I'm planning to take a helper to ease my load. You can atleast rest and recuperate and not let it stresses you or the baby. Jiayou mummy.
Probably #2 is feeling a little insecure as he may be finding that attention on him is less. Just need to guide him along and get your hubby and #1 to help more with #2. If can engage some help from parents or in-laws or even a helper will be good.
Sorry to hear this! It sounds so stressful! Is your husband open to employing some form of help? Even if not comfortable with hiring a full-time helper maybe can get a part-time cleaner to take off the domestic chores from your hands?
How about going back to work to earn money so you can afford a maid to take care of the kids And send number 2 & 3 to preschool? Less stress that way
Send the 2 elder ones to childcare if can afford so during the day you have personal time for yourself.
Can ur family or anyone can help u out? Basically u need someone there. Or maybe can get a helper?
Try to get freelance job to get a helper. It cost 1000 sgd inclusive tax to get a maid
Anna Lydia