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Don't worry, you'll get there. It's perfectly normal to feel a bit detached initially, its also called baby blues and it can sometimes last for two weeks. But as you begin to spend more time with your little one, you'll feel the attachment and love. Know that you are anyway physically bonding, whether it is through breastfeeding, cleaning, or putting your little one to sleep. If however, this feeling persists for more than a month and you still feel detached, its best to consult your GP for postpartum depression. Its common signs are anxiety, a feeling to complete detachment to the baby, and not wanting to be close to your little one. Either way, try to become more attached to your baby and keep an eye on the any anxious or angry behaviour around your little bub.
It didn't happen for me right away either. When they handed me my baby right after she was born, my first thought was, "Wow she has long limbs!". Bonding for me happened later on, when we could 'communicate' with each other already and she wasn't just a crying/sleeping thing. It will happen, don't worry about it! One day your baby will be peacefully sleeping and you'll find yourself watching him/her and just feeling so much love. It will flow from there. http://sg.theasianparent.com/bonding-with-newborn-for-moms/
Is your child an infant or toddler? If it is just after the delivery, might be one of the symptoms of post natal depression. Don't be too harsh on yourself. If it's a toddler and you are suddenly feeling so, best to dig in deeper and see if something else is bothering you. In either case, take is easy and be loving to yourself. Bonding will happen and you could then take up a few activities to enhance it further.
While you are latching (if breastfeeding) or feeding bottle, changing diapers, bathing baby, babywearing and etc. you are actually bonding with her, with all the gentle touches. I find baby massage is a great way to bond with baby. My son loves it and I can see his face of satisfaction during message. Here is one of the examples on how to do baby massage. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mbCv6BBTV5c
I think you need not worry. Found this article which can help you understand more about bonding with your baby. https://sg.theasianparent.com/bonding-with-newborn-for-moms/?utm_source=article-bottom&utm_medium=copy&utm_campaign=article-share
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Make sure you aren't having postpartum is the 1st thing, if your baby is a infant. Also depression from lack of sleep etc. May speak to your Doctor. Other than that it will happen and the bond will grow.
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