I'm expecting my 1st in Aug and my dad has gladly volunteered to take care of my baby after my maternity leave. The plan is to bring my baby to their place before I go to work and pick baby up after. My step-mom however, is not very happy about it and insists that I hire a helper for them at their house, as I will be able to qualify for subsidied levy. (But i'm not comfortable with having a helper around a 4 mth old) What should I do? Infant care? Really consider hiring a helper? What would you do if you're in my shoes?

I wasnt comfortable letting a helper taking care of my baby, especially since there are no elders at home, hence I enrolled him in infantcare. However, do note that baby tends to fall sick easily during the initial months (I took too many urgent leaves) and every day is very rushed for us as we have to rush to send him there before work and pick him up before ifc closes. One plus point is baby is very motivated to rolland crawl seeing older babies doing it. And he is definitely very friendly with other people. Alot of people ask me to get a maid instead as they say it will be better for me as the chores will be done and she can help with the night feeds, but I just dont want to take the risk. I guess it boils down to one's comfort level and circumstances. Jia you!