Having been pregnant twice previously, I can tell you that for both times, I was very very emotionally needy towards my husband, much more so than usual. And my husband is also someone that isn’t very emotional, so it was difficult for him to cope with a suddenly needy wife (I’m usually quite independent).
There were times I also felt the same way that you’re feeling, and thinking that my husband wasn’t doing enough or being understanding enough. But I came to realise that I should look at what he IS doing, instead of what he isn’t doing, and I realised that he was always doing his best for the family. If he massaged me for 3 minutes, I would just say thank you, and try to do some stretches on my own to relieve the pain. But for things like me not feeling beautiful while being pregnant, I would share those feelings with my husband. He never reacted immediately, but later on would tell me he loved me and tell me that I was beautiful, every now and then. I guess we cannot expect our husbands to serve us, and I don’t see it as me serving my husband too. Both of us like to express and receive love in different ways, so we need to learn to fill each other’s needs and help the other person feel loved. But even if either party falls short, I think every effort counts:)
Pregnancy is very tiring physically and emotionally. Thank you for sharing your feelings with this community.. I can’t really go and give you a massage now, but I hope you know that you’re a precious woman, wife and mummy, and I hope that when your baby comes, your joy will be doubled or tripled, and your aching body will recover well too ❤️