Breathing issues

If my baby have breathing issues when drinking milk. And i did went to ANE.. Although he dont have choking episodes. But when he drink milk.. He tend to breath very hard and there is very loud sound... ANE wanted him to do scope. But my husband asked me to do a force discharge. Then i am going to ENT tml... I told my hub if doc advise to do scope. We will go ahead. And he said if i let baby do scope. Anything happen i will have to ans for it...he say doc check abit later if surgery how.. Why we need to let baby suffer. He said he think baby is normal.. He will outgrown... The breathing issues.