I am stayhome new mom of 3 months of baby boy. I recently hired a indo maid (34) to help specifically with housework. I can manage house and baby well but my husband insisted to hire maid. She is short, fat and talkative. I'm a very private person and like to be alone with my baby.
On 1st day, she tried to rub my arm and try to sweet talk to me. I feel disgusted as I hate people pleaser.
On 3rd day, she asked "mdm can I follow you when you oversea?". I'm a very independent person and I hate someone following me when I go outside ( aside from friends and families). I feel obligated to force to talk to her or buy her something when I allow her to follow me. So when I go out alone with baby, she asked " where you go? Where you do? Who you meet?"
When my online parcels arrive, she asked " what's inside?? For who??"
I gave her wifi password, allow her to go out when she's free, she can take naps during day and everyday, she can eat everything inside the fridge and I give her allowance to go pasar malam. She sleeps at 8pm every night and start work at 7am.
She said she scare to go out alone, no friends in sg and want to follow me everywhere. I feel like I have another burden. She pretend to be soo nice to my son in front of me. She keeps saying " oh mdm you have very nice things, baby has all nice things hor"
She drinks coffee 2 times a day with sugar, bread ( requested me to get bigger bread for her), finish all chocolate within 2 weeks, eat 2 cups of rice each meal. I ask her go ntuc, she said tired so she buy potato chips, another trip said tired so buy drinks ( ntuc only 5 mins away).
I started to feel so suffocated around her. I don't allow her in my room as she tried to wear my shoes. I feel like I have to keep cctv in my room just in case.
Btw she can't even mix baby formula with water. How? She forced to carry my baby and I don't trust her as she try to give solid food ( she said she did the same with her babies).
Updates: she finished whole huge bag of rice within 3 weeks. I am shocked as my family eat that bag for a year. So I expected it to last at least 2 months. She wakes up at 7 am ..
Later than emplor family and every night sleeps at 8pm. Lol she is having too much good time here.