I totally get the worry, honestly, I was cautious about seafood in my first trimester too! From what I've heard around, the concern with stingray isn't really about it being unsafe, but more that some mums prefer to skip it just because it's quite a heavy, rich fish and can be harder to digest when you're already dealing with nausea and stomach sensitivity. As for lala, most mums I know ate them without issue, they're just shellfish like any other, so the usual food safety rules apply (make sure they're cooked through, from a clean source, no raw ones). I'd say it's more about how your body is handling things right now rather than a hard no-no. That said, it's worth checking in with your doctor or midwife about what they recommend for your particular pregnancy, especially if you have any specific concerns.
yes tho i did not abstain completely... i even consume cockles laksa during gynae visits coz in katong 😬