First of all, *BIG bear hug*
I have not been through such stress situations but a couple of my close friends had which eventually ended up in either divorce or awkward relationship. I would not say that I understand because in each family, there is its own unique set of problems. Hurtful words are exchange when emotions run high - sometimes it hurts longer and more then was intended.
I advise to talk to a counsellor - u can find more info at
https://app.msf.gov.sg/Policies/Marriages/Marriage-Counselling
It would be best if u can discuss with ur husband about how u both can go together so that u both can more peace in the household first. Please don't pop up the divorce word just yet because once said cannot be unsaid/unhurt. In some cases, the couple will still be advise to go through counseling before divorce to see if things can be worked out
Maybe in the meantime u can try to spend some time for urself doing the things u like or catch up with ur friends etc - take a breather. The more u think abt it, the higher the chance of a over-reactive session when u talk to ur husband later
I don't think I can give a lot of advice or finish giving advice because I do not know the whole story. But I do hope u both can work things out first - both of ur needs and wants - after that is done then can any positive feelings of love and affection flow.
Divorce is a tough tough road. Don't throw the towel in yet without exhausting help.