Life after baby. Share with me please on how you feel about this. Thank you.

I’m in same situation not even better. I want to take care & educate my LO. We in different belief, so before marriage & baby plan my husband & I did talk a lot on family plan even with his parents. But all discussion turn bullshit. Now my baby is 11mth old. My relationship with my husband was in unhappy marriage we stop communicate. If I point out any discussion my husband will shout on me. I taken all the blame becoz they like to said I take granted from his family. I cook meal for his family during pregnant & WFH. But I been tell I take granted. I give birth to my baby & asking my husband take care my baby at night during my 2nd month postnatal I take granted from him. As my husband I always take granted. To my in-law all turn very ugly. My MIL said I spent her 2k to buy ingredients for my confinement (no cod fish, or any good ingredients). Then they like to kept asking me why baby cry. How much u feed, why u didn’t do this & that (like very expert, but my In-law didn’t even take care her own son & daughter when they are infant). But I very firm person. I will not scold back but I act on my way. I even Everyday ask my baby said good morning & said good night to everyone before back to room. I do my best to teach my own son. Is so difficult, ask them help u take granted. Don’t ask them help, u didn’t ask for help that’s why u deserve to be exhausted. I just learn what come to me. Do what U think is right for baby. Ppl will be mistake here & there. Stay strong mama. U are the best mama for ur baby

Baby is yours! You have all the rights! If your husband only wants to makes his parents happy then tell him marry his parents! Tell his parents ownself go and give birth so they can do wtv the fk they want to the child! I am NOT in good terms with my in LOLS(laws) 🙄🙄 I made it clear I only allow his parents to see my baby once a month! I will not allow them to touch my baby and at the start they would keep pestering about Chinese name and that it’s a must to shave her hair shave her brows and all those pantang sh*t but I also told them straight in their face NO and I’m the MOM you all have no rights to do anything to my baby! At the end of the day, baby is yours! You bring up your baby however you want if your husband dont agree then tell him go find another women give to another baby so his parents can control that baby life however the fk they want! For me I am v v v firm and I will let anyone NO matter who knows not to cross their line and interfere with how I decide to bring up, care and love for my baby

Hope u are not staying with your in law. I went thru sth that’s a bit Similar. Stayed with in law, can’t stand the way in law talk and do things, first she asked why baby so noisy when baby was few days old, then she carried baby with her hair dye on her hair... so I moved out when baby 4 month plus. Felt husband sides w his mom too, but I made it clear baby is mine. I won’t let his mom come near my baby for some time. I’m still not forgiving her for my bad experience. I could have provided better for my first born. But because of living with her, and her nonsense behaviour, I let down my kid in some areas. In fact, my milk supply shot up to surplus after I moved, from insufficient to over supply.

This kind of thing, u must open your mouth and tell them. I am not on good terms with my in laws so I told my hubby I will not let my baby meet them at all. Only during cny. My in laws Are a bunch of disgusting people. They don’t show concern about my baby and only visited her once since she’s born because they are pantang and my baby is a girl so no value to them. She is 3 months plus now. They also want my baby to shave her head etc and I said no.

Put your feet down. U need to be strict and firm. The way I see it, u actually also wants to make everybody happy. Set your boundaries and rules regarding this. 1 week ur inlaws take care the other 1 week ur parents take care. Don't let them step ur head and make it looks like ur decision doesnt matter. Be firm , girl. Get someone close to u to be by ur side also if u cant get ur husband . Be firm always