Breastfeeding and post partum

I gave birth to my son in march and since my discharge, life at home has been drastically different. The first few days were the toughest. I remember just continuously crying to my husband because every damn thing came at once. Handling baby, pumping, having sore nipples, rock hard breasts, low supply and little sleep...it was just so overwhelming. I expected it to be hard but not to this extent... One of the most stressful part of this experience is breast feeding. Since my son had to stay in the hospital for a while, he was bottle fed there. Given this he has developed preference for bottle. So when I went home, he refused my breast. Once, I forcefully gave him my breast, and he bruised my nipple. It was so pain and frankly the only reason why I kept trying was because my husband and in law was giving me a shitty hard time, saying that formula is not as good and that I should try to breastfeed. I honestly resent them in that moment because they have no idea what I was going thru. My breast was hurting and all they kept saying was just try and try to breastfeed, invalidating my feelings. Dear mothers I don't wish to scare you but please take care of yourself during post partum. There is no denying that it will be stressful. My husband during pregnancy was so thoughtful and caring. Now he still is but of course with the baby, priority goes to baby. I won't fault him. Things are different w a baby. Try to get as much help from your parents/family/friends. Get confinement food sorted. Get someone to help w the night shift. It's going to be tough but honestly when we walk out of this, there's really nothing else we mothers can't do. We give birth to a human baby (with no epi), have stitches, walk the next day, pump for our lil one every 3 hours and run on very very little sleep. I love my husband but men really have no idea what we go through...

Skye chua

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Hi mummy! I gave birth early April and going through postpartum as a FTM is tough. When I thought pregnancy was bad, I had to face childbirth. When I thought childbirth was bad, I had to experience postpartum. Like you, I was crying everyday, and still do on some days when I get too overwhelmed. The lack of sleep really gets to me and with that comes the headache. One time my BP shot up really high bcos of lack of sleep and I thought I was going to die 😂 for me I had non stop guests for Raya, even on weekdays so I couldn't find time to rest in the day even if I wanted to. My baby is exclusively breastfeeding, so the nights are toughest for me cos my husband is basically useless even if he stays up. He can only help with diaper change at night. We tried bottle feeding baby but he doesn't know how to pace himself so he tends to gag/choke. He finds comfort in latching and sleeps easily like that. But then it takes a toll on my body cos I have to stay up when he latches. On top of all these, we are still expected to follow confinement practices. Eat healthy food, wear binder 24/7 while still healing from stitches, cannot go out for x number of days, cannot do this and that. All these affect your mental state cos you're not free to do what you want and always under watchful eyes, especially if you're staying with your mil. But recently I feel emotional when I realise my husband and I are not spending enough time together as a couple. No more Netflix together, dinners together, showering together. Might seem like something minor but I enjoyed those times with him and now that we can't find time to do those things, I feel like I am losing grasp of our relationship and it makes me really sad. Our lives literally flipped upside down upon the arrival of our baby. These days are tough... But when I see my baby's face everything just makes it better. This innocent face that does nothing while we do everything 😂 but support is important mummies! Text your friends, confidants, get your husband on your side. Rant all you want. Make sure you get everything out. Cry if you must. But also know that this will get better in time 😊

Skye chua

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thanks for sharing. I cannot believe you wear the binder 247. the masseuse told me to but I only wear 4 hours max and I shower, else I think I'll go mad... you are a superwoman

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