if you are worried that she is spending your money unwisely, maybe you can speak to her nicely and help plan better. sometimes, she may not be aware that you feel this way, and if you discuss it openly with her, she will take the right steps to check where possible.
also, i think the work from home option as suggested by others is also good for now. once the kids are more grown and can be left at home on their own, maybe then she can go regularly to office. till then, she can contribute to the house a little by working from home.
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