My husband, ever since I gave birth to our first child, has been more self centered than before. He would go for massage at tcm claiming backaches when I was having pain and soreness and lack of sleep after childbirth. After I delivered, every week he would go tcm to treat his backache which was very mild prior to childbirth. When I hired someone to do the postnatal massage, he also felt he needed a 'postnatal' massage. Then he started telling my friends I have postnatal blues, but when I ran away from home one day cos I felt stressed and unloved by family members during confinement, he just went to take a nap. However, on the surface, he was telling everyone how concerned he was. Our relationship deteriorated but I tried my best to give it another chance. Now I'm having my #2 and it got worse... He's seeing the tcm even before I deliver, claiming he has severe backache. But on the other hand, he's doing pull ups with a new pull up bar he purchased and going to gym. I'm giving up. I am very sorry to say this aloud, but I cannot help feel my husband is very sissy and not dependable. I need a strong person to take care of me and I am already struggling. But now I hv to deal with a self centered person all over again and I'm really very exhausted. I'm prepped for divorce.... we've been through counseling but the sessions are expensive. Every cent counts as we are financially strapped too. Anyway to cut it short, I think the counseling didn't help much cept to identify that his issue stems fr his childhood... I dunno what else to do. I don't want to have 3 kids (him being my 'eldest child')!

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Sorry to hear you are going through this. I can imagine how stressful it must be for you - especially since you've tried everything possible. Please surround yourself with other mothers, friends and family members who are supportive towards you. Also make him understand that his presence in his children's life is essential now when the whole family is going through a tough time.

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I have actually experienced a lot in my relationship my spouse never cared about me and I always did everything to make her happy I have tried so many ways to find out what was distracting her but nothing worked am really Glad Paul was able to handle this for me and got me out of this mess. Only a highly skilled hacker would help you, [email protected] WWW.HACKERSPYVILLE.COM

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How was he before you have a child? I feel that the issue can still be work out if you both communicate and express your feelings and expectation and listen to his as well. Example when you are feeling stress, did you tell him or you are expecting him to know and do something? I just feel like some man, if you don't say it they just don't know.

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Oh mumma, sorry that you don't feel your hubby is giving you the support you need right now. Maybe he needs to be exposed to more hands on daddies? How about getting him to also join ParentTown on the dads channel and be inspired by the dad role models here?

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hey mummy.. seems like your hubs is seeking your attention indirectly. probably he felt neglected since the focus is more on the baby and you. I suggest that you have a day for him n him only and try to talk it out. hopefully things will get better. all the best 😘

Bring that matter to the Lord, everything is a test and this thing is just a phase, a test for your marriage, just be a good mother and child, also pray for everything to God all your pain and worries one day all thing will gonna workout just fine.

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Sorry to hear this and you are going thru this alone. Mummy. Don't let him bother you anymore. Try to get someone to help you care for your LO a few hours while you go for a nice massage?

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Hugs, mommy. I feel that once in a while and it is really difficult. It's like you're left without a choice at the moment because the kids are still small and you got no other place to go.

If it is tugging on your mental health, do what is best. Although it may be hard, your mental and physical health comes first, otherwise the stress would be on the child. Stay strong, mommy!

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When u r emotionally stress pls lock yourself and cry it out. When u r stress , it will reflect towards your child & end up crying & u gonna be more stress. Keep and learn to control feelings. Regards to your Husband ... deal Separately & u know what’s the best.