I'm sorry you're going thru this but it's v shallow of your hubs to end the rs because of not achieving the looks and his acceptable weight of you postpartum.
losing weight postpartum takes a lot of time and must be diligent in the process as well. its get tougher when you've become a mother and having to care of the infant 24/7.
not sure why you guys would get tgt in the first place just on the aesthetic or the body physiques of one another, it seems there there wasn't any true love to begin with? After so long being together, things or rather the criteria for him still doesn't change, then might as well ask him go date some supermodel la. anyway, as you said you guys were in ldr for 9 years, I honestly wouldn't rule out the possibility of him cheating on you since he cares so much of someone's looks and body weight.
no point holding onto the marriage if everything is so materialistic. if he ever gets married to another woman in the future and she is unable to lose weight in time, is he gonna divorce her just like you? what a lame excuse and childish thinking. damn freaking shallow.
even if you managed to lose weight but what if your infant grows up to be not in his ideal "weight" or "looks"? he is gonna abuse the kid? whoa I seriously think he needs to seek help from the psychiatrist.
i hope you would talk to your parents or family about this and come to a conclusion. really see no point holding on tgt with him even when there is a kid, cos he ultimately sets a v bad example for the kid.
hope you will get over it soon and take care. be strong!!!!!
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