How to sleep train

I sleep train right from newborn. After feeding, placed her in cot and being newborns they will go to sleep almost instantly. Practice “light is day, dark is night = sleep” Left her to sleep in cot for a few weeks then co-sleep with her. P/S: Initially we shuddered at the thought of co-sleep because me and husband we’re both big size people on a king bed. 😂 But when baby slept with us, we hardly move ourselves afraid we might turn and suffocate her and also I was still recovering from my c-sect so I was quite a light sleeper for my first month of post-partum. Kept waking up to check if baby is alright. We made sure pillows and comforters were out of the way. This then became a habit for both of us to check on her through the night. So actually, the first few days we did pat her to sleep, shush her, swayed her, rocked her, etc. But slowly reduced as much as possible doing all that for her when putting her to sleep unless she’s gassy or fussy. When she co-sleep with us, I will just put her on the bed and monitor her. She will play for a few mins then start to fuss, look for her pacifier which I’ll give and turn her sideways and caress her eyebrows, hair, and she’ll slowly drift off to sleep. Eventually I stopped doing all that and now at 4 months, we’ll just put her on the bed, give her towel and pacifier and she will just know when to close her eyes. We will monitor her until she goes off to sleep on her own which she does almost instantly. Usually 9pm onwards I’d switch off my room light and leave the night light on. Then she’ll already know it’s bedtime. At my in-laws place I’ll place her in a cot and she’ll sleep on her own as well. Sometimes my MIL will pat her and sing lullabies to her but when she goes to bed with me, I don’t do all that so she can still make do with either. At my parents’, she will sleep in her yao lan, and drift off to sleep after a few minutes of rocking. Planning to remove it cause she sleeps longer without it actually. Haha which means she’s used to not being “moved” or “swayed” when sleeping. My baby also sleeps through the night for 7-9hrs straight. I’ll give her a last feeding right before bedtime which is usually between 8.30-9.30pm and very rarely she’ll wake up before 5am. Normally she’ll go into night mode after 8.30pm. Her naps in the day are usually from 20mins-2hrs intervals. She’ll usually have about 12-14hrs of sleep from the time she goes to bed and wake up around 10+am everyday with about 3 feedings of 90-120ml in between from 5am onwards. The only thing that I regret raising my baby with is introducing the pacifier. Being new parents we panicked every time she cried so we soothe her by introducing the pacifier. Initially we both agreed we wouldn’t want to but couldn’t help to see if it would work on her and now we both regret. Hahaha. Because now my baby needs her pacifier to soothe herself. I’m trying to slowly wean her off the pacifier before she grows too big to stop. Cause she knows how to suck her thumb if she can’t find her pacifier. Which I’ve read and heard that it could be worse cause will affect her teeth so I’m still not sure how and what to do with that. Hahaha. But it’s ok, slowly but surely will find a way. What I can suggest is you can try to pat, rock, sway, shush your baby to sleep but reduce it along the way. Eventually they will go to sleep on their own. Takes a little bit of time and patience. And also a strong heart and willingness to let your baby find his or her own comfort with little to no help from you. Which means doing the “cry it out” method if need be. Good luck! ❤️