Lack of connection

My baby is 19 months old now. She's my firstborn, and I just turned 25 this year. Right after giving birth, I just rested for a few days while a confinement nanny took care of my daughter. But as soon as I could walk around the hospital (since I had a c-section), I started holding my baby right away. Whenever she needed breastmilk, I would feed her; the nurses only took her when it was bath time. After that, they’d bring her right back to me. I actually thought about this before I even gave birth—even though I had a confinement nanny helping out, I made sure to still wake up and breastfeed her myself because I really wanted to build that bond with my baby. A week before my confinement period ended, I asked the nanny to let me sleep with my baby. I figured, once the nanny goes home, how am I going to get used to taking care of her by myself? My nanny was totally fine with it and said, "Yeah, no worries! Just call me and I'll come to your room" (since she was sleeping in the room next door). So, just a little piece of advice: maybe give this a try. You also need to communicate and set expectations with the people around you. Don't stress out too much, there's a solution for everything! Even though it's exhausting, you're making precious memories. I know you're probably extra sensitive during this phase, but make sure you talk to your husband a lot so you don't feel overwhelmed carrying it all yourself. Hang in there, mom! I know you can do it. You are the best mom!

Oh dear, you sound very stressed out at the prospect of having to tc of your baby. I was the same with my 1st child. It terrifies me to be alone with the baby as I was very scared that I wouldn't know what to do if he keeps crying. There is no need to feel ashamed if u need support from others. Raising a kid requires a village. It's fine to exclusively pump (and its a very hard thing to do, I did it for my 1st kid) and bottle feed, whatever works best for u and the baby. Dont stress yourself trying to bond with your baby, the feelings will eventually come as time passes. Play with your baby, watch her smile (soon! she'll start to smile nearing 2 months), listen to her babbling and cooing, and you'll feel closer to her, slowly but surely. And unless u had prior experience looking after babies, no one knows how to take of babies until they learn and gain experience. Giving birth to a baby doesnt mean you know how to take care, so give yourself grace. Youre alrdy trying your best, and u will eventually pick things up!

actually i also first time mum n i also struggling. in my case i got no one can assist me. so me n my husband hire confinement lady another mth as i barely rest as i got breast pump milk. then 3rd mth we getting a maid. is really stressful but alot couple can handle newborn themselves 2nd mth. i felt is case by case basis. if need help pls approach

it's ok. I also only felt a true connection like 4 -5 months in. I didn't have the.. I would die for my child kinda immediate bond. it took me a while to feel the love and bond

i had lotsa help which not every1 may... it took me a long time to connect but my kidz definitely come to know...