I agree with Ling, you have to sit him (and his brother) down and talk to him about helping out with the housework. Tell him that housework isn't easy and it is a lot to do for one person. Maybe try getting him to help out with smaller tasks first like folding his own laundry, or wiping table top surfaces, etc. As for his brother, talk to your husband and see if you guys can at least get him to flush after himself. If you guys are staying together, I think he should be contributing towards doing housework or something. As for a job, maybe you can try looking for a part time job first for now. Part time jobs are slightly easier to find and gives you that flexibility in terms of working hours. Good luck!
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