Hi my parents in law have been of great help in helping me to take care of my kids as I am a working mum. But my mother in law likes to make noise about how I run the household and also scold my helper when she doesn't do things her way. I don't want my helper to get pissed off at her and am also afraid that she will not want to work for us. Any tips? Should I get my helper to listen to her and do things her way or do things my way?

Speak to your husband and tell him how important a help is to your household right now, and if she leaves, there will come many issues in your job and stress will automatically be there in your both life as a whole. Tell him to talk to his mother and make her understand not to nag the help and you will give her instructions whatsoever. You can also speak to your maid and take her in confidence and tell her not to mind your MILs behaviour as old people have peculiar problems of being dissatisfied with everything especially with their DILs.