I really feel you on this, what you and your husband are going through sounds exhausting and genuinely frightening, especially with a newborn to protect. Someone in my mum group mentioned that if there are real threats like that "hack to death" comment, you can actually file a police report first to get it on record, and then look into applying for a Protection Order or PPO, which is a legal restraining order that can help keep them at a distance. For the social media posts, even if she's not tagging you directly, if the context makes it obvious enough that it refers to you, that could fall under harassment and you may be able to get a Protection Order under that angle too, best to consult a lawyer or even go to the Family Justice Courts to ask, since the first consultation is usually quite accessible. You and your husband have been so patient already, and there's no shame in using the legal options available to protect your family, your little one deserves a peaceful home.