Aww sabar ya, I can imagine betapa worried you are after the previous losses. Pessary memang boleh help but everyone's experience berbeza-beza, a few of us in my mum group wore one during pregnancy, and the main thing is to follow your doctor's instructions exactly and attend all your check-ups regularly so they can monitor how it's doing. Memang ada discomfort at first (spotting, discharge, pressure feeling), tapi most of us kena get used to it after a few weeks. Definitely ask your doctor specific questions tentang activity restrictions, hygiene care, and when you can remove it, mine was very clear about that. Praying everything goes smoothly for you this time around!