unsupportive family. :)))

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hey guys. just found out with hubby that we’re expecting a boy. and we are so delighted and filled with joy. anyways me and my mom arent really that close but like i expected her to be happy for me and hubby but when hubby relayed the msg to her that we are having a boy, all she replied was “ok” 😪 not even excited, no well wishes. nothing.she is a young mom. she had me at quite a young age. and she is doing super great now with her husband and my two half siblings (whose ages are soooo far apart from me). and i know she has always wanted a boy but she has only been blessed with three girls (including me). but am i to be blamed for that? anyways, she didnt raise me since young. so thats like what, 20+ years of missed connections between us. but like shouldnt she feel smth at all that her first is having her first? she’s not even excited or eager to have her first grandkid. she has never spoken to me eversince she found out i was pregnant anyways and i dont know why. not like im asking her for money. really wish she could be a supportive parent because sometimes it feels lonely 😔 is it because im having a boy and she never could have a boy? cant be she that petty right. or maybe she just doesnt care. hubby’s family is broken and he doesnt want his parents near our child because they are toxic and manipulative and mean and his dad is abusive and he is scared anything might happen to baby. my real father is busy with his own life and my mother is busy with her own new family. me and hubby are doing very well too and we are just waiting for baby to come, and hubby does a good job reminding me that it’s going to be okay and that our child will never go thru what we went thru. but thats not my concern. he is the best husband i could ever ask for but….. everyday when he isnt around i think too much and sometimes i pity my child because he is never going to have a grandparent to call out to. and im so tired of crying. so so tired.

Vô danh · Answer

at least u know u have a supportive husband and to me, that is all that matters. I'm currently in sg with my hubs but my immediate family aka my parents are in msia and I haven't been able to see them since covid so about 2 years plus. we don't have a strained r/s but we are not those very very clingy to one another haha cos I studied in sg since young and during my poly days, I stayed in sg alone and only go back msia once or twice a month lol. when I told her I was expecting, just a week ago, she was elated because she has been pushing me to give birth soon and didn't want me to give birth when I'm too old. had a phone call for an hour plus (after so long) and that was it hahaha. told her I have bad morning sickness and she only told me to try some sour plums lol then MIA already. not that she doesnt care but more like she isn't worried too much about me knowing that I can take care of myself and my hubs will be around. like Asian parents don't really showcase their love physically. I haven't even spoken to my dad about it. my mom just relayed the msg to him. so now, I'm stuck here facing my first trimester alone with my morning sickness peaking but my hubs has been doing the household chores for now cos I really feel v nauseous all day long and he didn't wanna inform his family until we clear the first trimester and also partly because my MIL is a bit cranky and v superstitious. he scared that his own mother will keep coming over to disturb and anyhow cook food for me to eat. I think having a supportive hubs is really impt and u have one! stay positive and be happy!