Firstly, congratulations in advance! My advise to fellow FTM is, don’t think, don’t read, don’t listen. Everyone’s experience is different, so don’t scare yourself. I was so afraid I was crying so badly before I admitted to the hospital, I’m super afraid of needles, scared of what if it hurts etc etc. I was still crying when I’m on the hospital bed and the nurse was shocked. Anyways, I didn’t know about the 3 pills induce fail need to ecsect thing (I was induced) so one less thing to be scared back then. For someone with a low threshold for pain, my birth experience was painless (my dad says I’m crazy 😤). Once the first contraction hits me, I requested for laughing gas and I didn’t let it go anymore. I was high on it and floating, so when they inserted the IV and epidural, I didn’t feel a single thing. I was so high to the extend the nurse told me epi is done and she wanted the laughing gas back but I didn’t want to give lol. My entire birth process from admitting till labour was 6 hours. Anyways the side effects from epi was pretty bad, I was vomiting and vibrating away while being sewed up, I didn’t even want to see my baby. I only felt alive after 7 hours later. I did have tears, according to my husband, the tear seems pretty near my anus (dk what degree is that). Apart from having slight pain on the first night (20+ hours after birth), subsequenly was just sore but no pain and I can still walk and function properly.
dun think so much. i was induced for stillbirth and the dilation was really slow. abt 30+ hrs of labour. when i was really in pain then i ask for epidural but must wait till 4cm dilated. before that i had pain killer jab and laughing gas. once im ready to push, i just push as hard as i can cause i wan to quickly end it. my husband said i had tear but i dont feel any pain. after i discharge, some pain and sore but is manageable.