Feeling frustrated

FTM here too, similar situation as yours but due in Aug. just as others advise, better to not risk it and DIY. We are in the midst of hiring helper as well, hoping for helper to arrive may-june to get used to the chores and our style before baby and confinement nanny comes. Both husband and I really too tired to do housework well everyday, so we know we need the helper to take care of chores and baby in the long run. Confinement nanny is definitely helpful to teach parents and helper how to take care of baby as well, I'd say go for both even though it may feel overwhelming now and crowded at home. As other mummies say, your rest and recovery is most impt postpartum 💪

I think a confinement nanny is a must in your case. Baby drinks every 2h if you breastfeed (3h at most if you bottle feed). Not forgetting in the first months, baby poops after every meal, so that's like a cycle - feed, change diaper, put baby to sleep, and repeat. No time for you to get proper rest that you need postpartum (please prioritize your recovery so that you can look after everything in future). If you don't have enough rests/sleep, you cannot do any other things (like household chores) too...... I agree with another mommy, to try interview another helper.

I agree with interviewing another helper. I thnk what make or break here is not about getting a helper. It’s about getting a good help. A bad help will just add on to stress. I got my helper early too, 3 months before my EDD so she knows how to “run” the house etc. Bear in mind also, when nanny comes, helper can help nanny to orientate the house. And helper can learn from nanny on how to take care of baby. So most important is not just her past working experience, it is her attitude, communication skill, cleanliness and willingness to learn

I would say trust Ur instincts and don't settle with the helper. there are many around in the market, so take the chance to interview more and find now that baby is not here yet. I switched helper when baby was 3mo and it was sooooo tiring, but the new helper was so much better. initially I was also uncomfortable with the idea of a stranger at home but my new helper feels like a younger sis to me so all's good now

Are you planning to latch? Or pump and feed/top up with FM. It’s hard to predict if you’ll have enough milk.. I had both nanny and helper and my house wasn’t so big either. Was v helpful though, baby woke up every 1.5 hours..

The first month can be tough for FT parents, especially the night feedings. You might want to have help if your husband is unreliable. Possible to interview another helper?