Can you forgive your spouse who has lied to u for 4 years or even more, only told the truth after much interrogation.

Actually I believe in your heart you already know if you want to forgive him and move on. No matter what we say it may not affect your decision. Even if it is something like cheating. It is easy to say you should not or will not forgive him but look at the vast numbers of wives who forgave their husbands after they have affairs including celebrities. It is easier said than done. Only when you experience it you will know it. I will and have forgiven him but I never ever trust him the same again. People will ask what's the use if two people married can't trust each other. But ask yourself if you are ready to have a life without him.