Hay anak, napakahirap ng pinagdadaanan ninyo, I'm so sorry. Please consider talking to a doctor or counselor soon, kasi kailangan ninyo ng proper support through this.
A few of us moms in my circle have been through this din, at ang sabi nila, grieving together, letting each other cry, not rushing to "move on", actually brought couples closer. Give yourselves time to heal without pressure. Maybe start small: hold hands, sit together, tell her you're both breaking and that's okay. Sabi ng isang kaibigan ko, the fact na gusto niyang maging "you two again" means she loves you, work through this together, hindi separately, ha. Be patient with each other.