I have never regretted being a SAHM. At times i do share the same concerns as you as well. Then again, i try to look for something adhoc or even parttime or voluntary work in order to keep myself updated with society and also for my resume if i do decide to go back to work. Afterall, i cant predict the future. Thats my stance. So honestly, yes money is important and a need. However is it worth it to be throwing all your time, energy etc for a job. I shall not say career. If you have such a mindset, if i understand you right you are concerned about the kids more then the job. Being a SAHM is a job too, a paidless and yet rewarding job. You can have both at the same time, look for part time, adhoc, freelance or contract basis jobs. Even giving tuition. There must be some sacrifices made, slowly blend the side income/kids together. Even if it is full time, what about food, transport, after deduction of bills is there anything left to comfort you and your kid? I would ask myself is it worth it?
To each its own, for me its not worth it. A job can always be found, my child once they grow the years pass, i cant change or turn back time.
If you have anything else which is bothering you, ill be here to give you some support!
Best wishes and blessings, my thoughts are with you.
Anonymous