Staying with MIL and expect me to do whatever she did after given birth

I understand it may be hard for us if some moms still strongly believe in old wife's tales. While both my mom and late MIL aren't so traditional, they do share with me some superstitious things which I also chose to ignore. Lucky me they did not impose those beliefs on me. Like the coconut drink thing, I actually drank alot (luckily no GD!) just because I love the drink and indeed baby came out clean (perhaps coincidental) without much of the white vernix but I do read somewhere having the vernix is actually good for baby's skin.

Oh my.. I will go back to my parent’s place n stay for sure. Hot compress at ball sack?? Is she craze?? 1. Do not want any argument, especially ure facing her everyday 24/7 . Especially ure bz pumping milk, learning how to handle/take care of ur LO, u won’t wan someone to keep nagging when ure already so stressed 2. Do not want u to have post depression 3. Do not want u to feel “obligated”

Feel u too. My mil is keep asking to follow her belief. Pressing the nose to shape. Spitting at the private part(female) to get rid of the discharge, massaging brows, legs to align properly. Breastmilk not good. So much more And its hard. So hard to say no as it will hurt them. And when politely say no, they claim their time newborn still alive and healthy despite everything

Is it possible to move out? Sounds toxic and it’s probably not going to get better.. you definitely need to stay away from her for your mental health. If really cannot then stand firm and tell her if you’re uncomfortable with whatever she’s saying. Stay strong!!

Man, this sounds like a nightmare. I happened to see some ladies going to confinement centres at jb (coz it's much cheaper there than SG), maybe consider doing that instead of staying with in laws after birth? At least its a month of peace.

I was 19yo when i had my first. prepregnancy I weigh 45kg. not sure what's my height back then but I am now 34yo and 159.6cm. my first borne weigh 3990. so close to 4kg.

Hahaha I feel you and trust me once baby is out it’s gonna get worse. That’s why I’m staying at my parents’ place instead of theirs.

I feel you!! Please talk to your hub or family n frens because when baby is out. It's gonna be worse n the depression is real.