Transparency in Personal Savings in Marriage

Currently pregnant with first child. I have a few savings that I segregate for child, myself and joint Acc with hubby. I know I have a lot more savings than my hubby cos he is transparent with me. He shows me how much he has in his bank acc but I can’t bring myself to show him the amount of money that I have in my personal bank acc that I saved for myself and child all these while. Arrangement is I put “dollar to dollar” matching with him in our joint baby acc. He usually give me lump sum and I matched my own savings it. Part of me is afraid that if he knows I have a lot more, he’ll be “complacent”. I always emphasized to him that having a kid in Sg is not cheap and savings is very important. Cost of living in SG is not cheap. Not that I don’t trust him but between me and him, he tends to spend more while I’m now more thrifty knowing I’ll give birth in a few months’ time. He gives me a little bit of money each month though. Are u guys transparent enough with each other and show how much each person has in own savings? Am I being selfish/bad wife?

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Super Mom

Every couple manages money differently.. I don’t think I can tell you what to do. My husband and I have a joint account. We put the salary in there, and we spend from there. We didn’t bother closing our individual accounts, but everything is transparent, because we plan to be together for life. But that’s us.

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