Confinement at own mom’s or MIL’s?

Currently planning on confinement. My mom is a working mom whereas my MIL is a housewife. My MIL’s house is extremely clean, neat and tidy whereas my house is normal, sometimes can get messy. Thing is over at my MIL’s if I do my confinement there, there is a single bed for me and my hubby will sleep on the mattress on the floor. And honestly I am not that comfortable staying with my in-laws (also a lot of pantang) as compared to my mom’s. Both moms can help to cook confinement food for me. My MIL also mentioned that she can help to look after the baby (take turns). It’s just that I feel restricted there. Whereas my mom is a working mom, I can’t expect much from her but I’ll be more comfortable at my mom’s. My hubby wants me to confine at his mom’s (more freedom for him in a way) but for me, I know I’ll not be very comfortable. Help.

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JTS my own experience, I had my first confinement at my parents home and I found it a very trying period of time. Doesn't mean that just because it is own parents you'll feel that comfortable either. Your spouse and baby will be there too which can cause friction when you are trying to find your bearings as a new parent. My second time, i decided to hire a confinement nanny and do confinement at my own home instead of shifting the entire family out of a familiar environment.

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Almost 3k at the time. If it is during CNY it would be higher.