Hubby a help or hindrance?

Both myself and hubby were new parents 3 years ago and were very clueless at the beginning. We both struggled to get used to Parenthood and nothing could have prep us better than after the child was born. He helped whenever he could like getting me a drink, buying me food, chatting with me while I pump/latch, learned how to change diaper. It wasn't like 'Oh he is super!' but I am.still grateful for whatever he did.