Help not wanting to stay with the in laws

Before marriage I don't have the intention to move in to stay with the laws, thought things will eventually change as days go by, but thats not the way, I don't do things, got said by MIL, I did the chores also said. Bring down the dried clothes keep aside where she usually put, so that I can have space to hang the washed clothes also not happy got complain. Anything got to do with my parents, like things that involve my parents side, and she don't like how they do. Also got mention. Really cannot stand her, seems like she trying to pick on me. Everytime said behind my back. Told my hubby, she had been saying thing on mean from the day I move in. He just keep num. Told him I want to get our own house just with him and baby...ya...now got a 10mths old baby. I really hope my child can have his own room. But he insist to stay with the parents and there is younger bro btw, even when we get bto. He still want to stay with them, saying is his responsibility as a elder son, but there is others way of taking care of them if we not staying together right?

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What responsibility as elder son lol? Then what about responsibility as a husband? Is his responsibility to LIVE with his parents or to TAKE CARE of his parents? And oh, if he say its his responsibility to take care of his parents, then it's NOT YOUR responsibility right? Don't tell me it's his responsibility to marry a wife so his wife can take care of his parents? What a joke! Tell him that's not how it works to take responsibility. He wants to take care of his parents? Great! Tell your husband to take over all the chores that your mil ask you to do and make sure his parents dont make mistake to be your responsibility. He wants to take responsibility right? Ask him take it then. Does your mil have a husband? If so, it's her husband job to take care of her, and your husband's job is to take care of you. Will he let you mistreat your mum? If he says he would not, then ask him why he would let his mum mistreat you. Ask your husband why he married you? Is it because he loves you or because he wants a maid or punching bag for his mum? if its the former (because he loves you), then remind him again that he married you because he loves you and show it. If not, I suggest just leave him asap because your life in future will be hell. How is it fair that you have to take care of him as well as his parents if you love him but he says he loves you but don't take care of your parents, and not even take care of you? 😒

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