Hi strong mother,
sounds that you have hard time. 
Well, every babies are different. No remedy to help actually. 😔
If I may recommend, please find what your baby like/prefer. 
For my baby(he is now 1 year), he likes to sleep with me while I do breastfeeding.  our way is:  nurse to sleep.  
With my husband, was the same as your way: be carried to sleep.  Now, my son is 
1 year old and he still wake up in the night 2 times!!
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