First preg. No mum, no MIL. Daunting 😨

Among our circles, we seem to be the only couple with no mums. It feels daunting that we're going through our first pregnancy, the confinement after, and the taking care of our first child by ourselves without a mum and MIL. (*Father and FIL are old, and aren't familiar with taking care of babies, and aren't concerned or interested about our pregnancy haha). We are all on our own. Just curious, anyone in this same rare situation? How did you manage? Do you stop at 1 child because of the lack of help? Pls share! I get scared and nervous just thinking about it. And very envious of the many other couples out there who have help from their mum and MIL. (We stay in our own place, have no intention of engaging helper/confinement nanny) #1stimemom #advicepls

Vô danh

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Even though both my parents and PIL are around but to be honest i can’t even depend on them at all as they don’t seems to be bother especially my PIL. I see and hear from my girl friends how nice they MIL make tonic soup and so much but for me nothing at all. Only called us when needed something even when I’m suffering from bad nausea we still have to drive them around for hours. I can’t do anything as my husband are quite protective to his family. The only thing I can do is cry under the blanket. We always ended up quarrelling whenever we talk about it. So it doesn’t mean with parents and PIL around are good, babe. Be strong together, we can do it!

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Omg babe, your second line is exactly what I am going through! Also no such treatment unlike all my girlfriends! I even had to attend their family dinner on my birthday when I was pregnant, and some of the food the FIL prepared were things pregnant women shouldn't eat. And he never once talk about the pregnancy or asked about me. Felt so awful about the situation but also couldn't do anything. :( Thanks for your reply, it comforts me to know there's someone else in the same shoes. ♡ Just wondering, given this situation, do you feel like you're not very keen to have more kids?

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