my 3mth old son needs to be carried to sleep.. and still carried while sleeping (touch bed/mattress will instanteously wake up).. so I get a yao lan (at least I can do other things) or continue to carry him while sleeping? I tried many other means, but he won't sleep unless being carried.. I even went to the extreme letting him tire himself out.. but he still won't sleep..

Did u carry him during the newborn time (confinement time) very often? If you are ok with introduce yao lan, why not. My no1 uses it until 6 months than i wean off as she doesnt like yao lan. While my friend still using it till now for afternoon nap, going 3 years old soon. He used to relay on yao lan too, but took a bit of time to let him get uses to sleep on bed, but tt is when baby is a bit bigger. And they are perfectly fine. At least with yao lan, you can bath, eat, etc. after using yaolan, than u have to start to slowly wean him off relaying it, like at night once deep asleep, move him to bed. Do u have rocker? Even after he is deep asleep move him to rocker and slowly rock him and let him continue sleep and slowly stop rocking. Have to trial and error to find the suitable ways to let ur LO sleep.