my 3 yr 5 mth girl can't stop throwing tantrums, especially over a very petty problem. today i was really mad. i caned her and raised my voice at her. i understand she couldn't understand what's happening and what she's done wrong. but i was really going bonkers! after awhile, i calmed down and explained to her why i was so mad. when i look back, she is still so young and innocent, i was very guilty and bad.