Eh sayang, I hear you, that sounds really heavy and stressful lah. Please talk to your doctor or go to a clinic soon, especially if the shortness of breath and headaches keep happening. These feelings of not being supported are real, and you deserve proper help. A few of my mum friends went through similar family situations, and honestly, prioritising your mental health first made the biggest difference for them. You're not imagining the stress or the physical symptoms, stress does that to our body. If possible, try to spend time with people who lift you up (family, close friends, or a counsellor), even if it's just a bit at first. You deserve to feel loved and supported, mama. Take care of yourself.