When I get married, how do I not get irrational (aka paranoid) when it comes to my husband and his w

When I get married, how do I not get irrational (aka paranoid) when it comes to my husband and his women friends, like I have always been with my ex boyfriends? Is there even a difference? https://toabettersarahraisingsophia.wordpress.com/2021/07/20/would-you-rather-marry-someone-friendly-or-aloof/