Oh sayang, I can only imagine how heavy your heart feels right now after 9 years of waiting and two ectopics, that's so much to carry. Please lean on your gynaecologist for a detailed conversation about your options and what realistic next steps look like for you , they know your full medical history and can help you understand the IVF path, timing, and support available. This really isn't something to navigate alone. A few of us mums went through fertility struggles too, and honestly, talking to a counsellor or support group for women with endometriosis helped more than we expected, the emotional side is just as important as the medical side. You're allowed to grieve what you've been through, and you're also allowed to hope. Lean on your partner, family, or trusted friends right now, you don't have to process this alone. Sending you strength.