Eh betul la tu! Anak sulung memang kena extra love, bukan extra pressure kan. A few of us mums agree yang the biggest mistake is expecting them to be perfect or to jadi example untuk adik-adik all the time, they're still kids jugak, and they need the space to fail and learn without feeling like the whole family's counting on them. That Redza Zainol point about equal love despite being the oldest resonates lah, sometimes we unconsciously dump more responsibility on them thinking they're "mature enough" when actually they just need reassurance yang they're valued for themselves, not for what they do or how they manage their siblings.