Sending you a big hug ❤️ Pregnancy after a miscarriage can feel very different, and what you're describing is actually really common. Many moms find it hard to relax, even when everything is going well. It's also understandable to be extra cautious with your history of type 2 diabetes. At 12 weeks, the risk of miscarriage is generally much lower than it was in the first few weeks, although it's never completely zero. If something genuinely feels off, like heavy bleeding, severe pain, leaking fluid, or reduced fetal movements later in pregnancy, it's always okay to get checked. For the day-to-day worries though, hopefully your regular checkups can give you some reassurance. One day at a time, mama ❤️ Many pregnancies after a previous loss do go on to have healthy outcomes, and I hope this pregnancy is exactly that for you.
I can really understand why you're feeling this way after what you've been through, and honestly, many of us who've had a loss do find the next pregnancy harder emotionally even when things are progressing well. It sounds like the anxiety is taking up a lot of your headspace right now, and that's completely valid, but it might be worth having a chat with your OB or even asking for a referral to speak with a counselor who specialises in pregnancy anxiety after loss because they can give you proper tools to manage the worry between check-ups. Your GP or KKH can point you in the right direction for that kind of support. The spotting at 4 weeks was scary, but you've made it to 12 weeks now which is a really good sign, and while I know it doesn't erase the anxiety, that's genuine progress. Try to be gentle with yourself during this time.