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hi.. saya baru bersalin 30/9 haritu.. first born saya masuk 1 bulan 7 hari sudah... lepas bersalin ni saya rasa mcm kesunyian.. rasa kosong.. rasa mcm nak someone tu sentiasa teman saya. husband bekerja.. kalau siang dia pergi kerja tu rasa kosong sgt. bila dia balik, dia penat dan saya tak akan minta dia jaga anak.. saya akan uruskan anak. tapi kadang dia akan handle baby. cuma saya rasa dia handle tu ala kadar je. kenapa ya? normal ke perasaan ni lepas bersalin? atau saya yang problem dgn husband saya..#Needadvice #firsttimemom #mohonbantujawabbunda

Vô danh · Answer

Sis, firstly congratulations on your little one, and please know that what you are feeling is very normal, ramai ibu baru yang rasa exactly like this, that emptiness and longing for company during the day is actually a recognised part of postpartum blues, and it does not mean something is wrong with you or your marriage. What you described about your husband handling the baby "ala kadar" might not be indifference, he could genuinely be adjusting to fatherhood in his own quiet way, and there is even a possibility that new fathers carry their own form of emotional exhaustion that they rarely speak about, so a gentle, open conversation with him (when both of you are calm and rested) may reveal more than you expect. It would really help to let him know specifically how you feel during those long daytime hours, because sometimes husbands simply do not realise the depth of that loneliness until we say it plainly and softly. If the perasaan kosong persists or feels heavier over the coming weeks, please do reach out to your doctor or a klinik kesihatan, postpartum blues that lingers deserves proper attention, and there is absolutely no shame in seeking that support for yourself.

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